“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved”
Most of the people does not get to fall in love with the “right one” from the beginning itself. Philosophers and mystics for many centuries spoke about 3 types of love we might experience in our lifetime. The one that make us do stupid things, the one that break and make us and the one that does not need a special reason.
1. The first love
“The heart wants what it wants”
We normally experience this kind of love during a very young age, usually in high school. This is the kind of love we see in fairy tales and Hollywood movies. The lovers will have high expectations about their relationships and believe they will end up getting married and live in a beautiful house happily ever after. This love is very dramatic and incredibly romantic, therefore we would do anything in our power to make it last as long as possible.
Then it comes to a stage where our own principals gets unimportant because we somehow want the relationship to work and think that is how true love supposed to be.
2. The second love
“We are shaped and fashioned by who we love”
When compared to the first kind, this is a much harder kind of a love we experience. This love will force us to understand who we are as individuals, who are partners are and where we want to go in life. As we are much grown in age and has become matured, this love will make us understand what kind of a person we want to live the rest of our life with.
We will experience manipulations, lies, deceit and will get hurt more often by our partners. As a result breakups may follow. We may forgive and make up again and again until we give up on the relationship entirely in the end. This love ends with a heartbreak and tears, but we become stronger. We learn about what makes a person worthy of our trust and heart.
3. The third and final love
“I want all of you. Your flaws, your mistakes and your imperfections”
By this time, we no longer expect love to be a fairy-tale. We have experienced love to great depths and have emotionally, mentally and even physically suffered. The third kind of love will arrive into our lives unexpectedly. Initially when we met that person we may not want to be in a relationship with them because the personalities does not match at all. This love will be totally unplanned and arrive out of the blue making the connection more strong and passionate.
This love mostly won’t be dramatic and romantic as the previous affairs, but will provide a far better peace of mind. The connection we build up with them, the support they provide us and the effort they insert to build a future with us will make the bond stronger. We will no longer have to hide our flaws and imperfections as they will accept us as who we are and we will accept them for their flaws.
Even though we never imagined we’ll end up with this type of a person, we will be much happier from the inside.
For a person it can take a whole life to learn the lessons of love, or if you are lucky you may grasp all of them just in a few years. We have seen people who fell in love at the age of 50+ and enter matrimony. We also see people who have been married for many years and still love their partners passionately. This third kind of love could arrive to your life at any age and once you found it, its forever.