In my previous life, material possessions were a key to happiness. I admit I have my fair share of luxury brands at home but after a few years, I realised they no longer made me happy.
It was a status thing in the beginning. A proof that I made it. I was wearing a similar watch to the other bankers or successful people in society. There were peer pressure to own a BMW because everyone had one.
But after awhile, I fail to see the incremental change in status for me anymore in having more material possessions. Or, maybe it was age that made me not care as much about material possessions anymore.
I started to see how hollow it was for my friends. Always chasing and trying to get the latest version of the luxury watches and ability to attend exclusive events after buying them.
Subconsciously, I started developing this idea that maybe banking was not my true calling after all.
I started doing many self enrichment programs and began asking myself what really made me happy.
To me, it must be my family, the smile of my daughters, wife and mum. To me, that’s a much bigger drive than upgrading my BMW to Porsche like what my friends did. Which if you have asked me a few years ago, would have been the sole drive of me continuing to work at Investment Banking.
To be honest, it is still a stunning vehicle and I still dream I could drive it one day but it is no longer my sole drive and I know there are more important things in my life.
Now each day, I begin by doing a gratitude meditation to prepare my mind for the day. For me, feeling grateful does help me put my fear and ego away. I try to be as disciplined as possible with the meditation.
I would listen to this Dan Lok meditation.
Personally, Dan Lok is an inspiration because we share many similarities in background.
Other than that, this one from MindValley is also very good.
To finish off, I was walking at a shopping mall the other day and on the wall, there is this proverb, which really stuck in my mind after I saw it.
If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a month — get married.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.