Avoiding them might help you take your life to the next level too.
We all know that our daily activities determine our future. However, most people ignore this basic rule for too long and live as if there’s no tomorrow.
They spend money they don’t have, consume foods and drinks that harm their mental and physical health, invest in toxic relationships, and end up feeling exhausted.
And the reality is that something you occasionally do won’t fundamentally change your life. A night out, a cheesy slice of pizza, skipping the gym for a few days… there’s no point in feeling guilty for these things as long as they happen occasionally.
But it makes sense to keep these things at a minimum to create a life you genuinely enjoy.
Quite often, success is not about all the extraordinary habits you build but about the guilty pleasures or toxic activities you avoid.
Even though eliminating destructive habits isn’t easy, it’s worth it.
Don’t let others mess with your priorities.
I discovered the world of personal development when I was 19 years old. Until then, I was trying to be everybody’s darling, cared too much about others’ thoughts and expectations, and constantly questioned my own worth.
And it took me quite a while to understand that I am the most important person in my life. And the same goes for you.
I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s your job to ensure others’ words and actions don’t hurt you.
There’s nothing more painful than taking things personally and allowing others to harm your mental health and wellbeing.
But the harsh truth is that nobody will prioritize you if you don’t do so.
You teach people how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself.
And quite often, those who hurt you don’t even aim to do so. They just don’t pay enough attention to how you feel and what you might need. That’s why it’s so important to clearly communicate what you need and expect from your fellows.
Stop holding on to the past.
Did you know that most people spend the majority of their time thinking about either bad things that could happen in the future or about regrets related to the past?
The problem with holding on to the past is that it doesn’t serve your current life and the person you can become. Instead, it’s just holding you back from doing the right things because it leaves you feeling anxious about the future.
Reflecting on the past and learning from our mistakes is priceless, but there’s no point in holding on to the mistakes we made.
My favorite way to let go of the past is journaling. By writing down my thoughts, regrets, and past mistakes, I feel relieved and ready to move on.
If you feel like a particular event from your past is still bothering you, it can help to take some time and allow yourself to process these thoughts and emotions.
Writing is a powerful way to process these feelings as it allows us to structure our thoughts and gain clarity about our emotions.
If you, however, struggle to let go of certain events, seeking a professional might be more effective and help you to better deal with your past and focus on a brighter future.
Don’t let the outside dictate your inner world.
So many people lack confidence because they compare themselves to unrealistic standards they see on tv or social media.
And the harsh reality is that social media is the #1 reason for lack of joy and energy for many people.
When I open my social media feeds, I only see positive, uplifting postings.
I don’t follow any toxic lifestyle bloggers who might lead to a lack of confidence. Instead, I follow pages and people who share beautiful photos, inspirational content, and helpful tips.
Social media can be a blessing or a curse, depending on how you choose to use it. It’s neither good nor bad, it’s just a tool and you can decide how to integrate it into your life.
Whatever you do, don’t allow it to mess up with your inner world. Instead, make sure you get to see what you want to see. If you’re careful about your usage, social media can indeed help you become a better and happier person.
And don’t forget that social media is just a tiny excerpt of the reality.
You’ll never see me sad, frustrated, or angry in my Instagram stories.
Does that mean that my life is perfect and I’m always cheerful? Hell no.
It just means that I decide what I share publicly and which parts I keep to myself.
Use the power of social media to get inspired and build deep connections. Don’t allow it to make you feel bad or less worthy than you are.
Don’t expect life to be hard.
In today’s fast-paced world, most people feel stressed before there’s anything to stress about. They’re so used to being overwhelmed that they don’t even expect their lives to be easy and enjoyable.
And that’s exactly the problem: You attract what you expect.
If you expect difficulty, you’ll find it.
If you expect beautiful experiences, your focus will shift and you’ll discover more of them.
And the reality is that most of our negative feelings are caused by a lack of mindfulness. You barely feel stressed about something that’s happening right now.
Instead, you’re mostly worried about things that happened in the past or about stuff that might happen in the future.
What you should do instead is focusing on the present moment, showing gratitude for what you already have, and enjoying yourself.
Don’t mess with your sleep.
If done correctly, sleeping can enhance your productivity and energy. And even though resting is inevitable for a happy and healthy life, most people try to fight their natural needs and don’t recover properly.
Two of the simplest yet most effective tips that massively improved the quality of my sleep are silence and darkness.
Especially if you live in a big city, you’re probably used to light and noise during the night. However, even if you’re used to it, they might harm the quality of your rest.
If you can’t fully darken your room, grab a simple sleep mask. And if your bedroom isn’t entirely silent, use earplugs.
You can easily take these two items with you when you’re traveling and make sure you don’t mess up with your sleep, no matter where you are.
Additionally, be careful about what you do before going to bed.
A proper evening routine that helps you calm down and relax can significantly impact your well-being and recovery.
Instead of doing excessive sports, watching tv, or replying to annoying emails, make some time for calming activities such as journaling, meditation, or reading before going to bed.
Get out of your own way.
Most of us are so used to complaining and negative thinking that we don’t even realize how these habits are holding us back from living a great life.
But here’s the truth: The more you complain, the more negativity you’ll find.
We’re all human and it’s okay to experience negative situations and emotions, but we can always choose how we react to them.
And the reality is that you always have two choices: You can either complain about something or look for a solution.
If you can change the situation, do it.
If you can’t do anything about it, move on and focus on the next best thing.
Nobody likes being around a complainer. So stop being the one who spreads negativity and focus on becoming the one who’s spreading the good vibes.
Sometimes, creating a better life is not about doing or being more but about removing what’s holding you back from being your best self.
Or as Antoine de Saint-Exupéry wrote in The Little Prince:
“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”
Getting rid of your old habits isn’t easy, but it’ll bring you closer to creating a life you genuinely enjoy.