The 12 Coolest Human Traits: Do You Have Them?

By: Karen Nimmo
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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

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The 12 Coolest Human Traits: Do You Have Them?

1. They can zig — and zag.

They’re adaptable. They’re not easily thrown or caught out by a change in circumstances. They don’t need to know exactly what’s happening to feel okay in the world. They’re able to turn uncertainty turn into possibility — even excitement.

2. They like people but they don’t need them.

They like people — a lot. They’re genuinely interested in them. They ask good questions and convey their interest in others. They say yes to social invitations — but they also know when to say no. They’re easy in company but also fine hanging out on their own, in fact, they schedule it to allow time to top up their own tank.

3. Their clothes match their personality.

They never look like they’ve tried too hard to get dressed (or that they’ve tried on three outfits before getting out the door, even if they have). But, whatever the occasion, their clothes and general appearance — outside of work, school or uniform requirements — convey something of the person they are. Consistently.

4. Criticism washes over them.

They don’t take things (too) personally. They understand other people’s opinions are not really about them — they’re a reflection of that person’s history, experiences and beliefs. Which means they’re not governed by the critiques of others — they do what they want or had planned anyway.

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5. They live “now” without over-stressing about the future.

They know the past has shaped their lives, and they draw knowledge from it, but they also know the past can be a trap. They refuse to walk into that trap because they know the past should not dictate their future.

6. They self-regulate — everything.

Food, alcohol, exercise, work, emotions — whatever it is, they know how to enjoy or express themselves — and, when enough is enough, they head home. Or close the gate. Or get on with something else.

7. They’re curious.

About everything. They love to learn. And they hunt down opportunities to do so.

8. If you’re mean to them, they won’t make a fuss.

Instead, you’ll lose them. They’ll just drift away. They know the world is full of people who won’t be mean to them. People who will add to their lives — not subtract. So they’ll go find them instead.

9. They interest you.

They do interesting things, they talk about interesting things. You find yourself with lots of questions to ask. You want to know more. You learn things by being around them.

10. They won’t judge you.

They’ll help you if you need it and they’ll advise you if you ask for it — but they won’t force their opinions on you. They won’t judge you. They’ll accept you have responsibility for your own life. Just as they have for theirs.

11. They find fun in small stuff.

They laugh easily and often. They can be serious when necessary but they have a lightness of spirit that is fun to tap into.

12. You wish you could see more of them.

You make an effort to stay in touch or to catch up. Because you enjoy it. Because they seem to enjoy you too. And every time you leave them you come away feeling okay — and knowing you want to keep them in your world. And, hopefully, they want you in theirs too.