Want a Happy Marriage? Science Says a Couple Should Do These 7 Things for Each Other Often.

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How many motivational books have you read? You know how it goes, right? The author conveys his or her version of the secrets of life, success, or relationships through a highly subjective “10 best” strategy. And then there are books like Eric Barker’s Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong. […]

5 Things That Have No Place in Unconditional Love.

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Yet We Insist on Doing Them Over and Over Again. Love hurts everyone — whether you believe that love is something you get or something you give. What differs is why we get hurt. People who want love get hurt because they feel they didn’t get enough. People who give love get hurt because they feel their love […]

Signs It Isn’t Love.

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We’re bad at being able to tell. “Love” is hard. Not complex —but hard. Especially when it comes to knowing if you really have it. I talk a lot about signs it is love, but here’s a list of common signs — especially feelings — we attribute to “love” that actually aren’t. TL;DR — it’s most of them. You’re Flying High Love is not about highs […]

Unconditional Love’s Great Paradox.

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Once upon a time, I had a philosophical conversation with someone about unconditional love. We were wandering aimlessly around the sleeping streets of his neighborhood somewhere in the hilly south of Germany, pre-dawn frost just beginning to crystallize out of the moisture on car windows. The clear October weather revealed the immeasurable vault of the […]